Monday, July 07, 2014
Practical Sufism in Italian
I came home from the store to day to find a package waiting on my porch. I tried to think if I had ordered anything but was pretty sure everything had been delivered. Then I saw that the return address was the Theosophical Society so I knew what it was, a copy of my book. What I was not expecting was to find that my book, Practical Sufism, has been translated into Italian. How cool is that? I am a happy boy.
Many Blessings, Musawwir
Wednesday, May 21, 2014
INTENT
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INTENT
A friend of mine decided to read my whole blog from the
beginning. She pointed something out to
me that I was not aware of. She said
that the first couple of years of writing the blog it was obvious that I was
concerned about the number of readers I had and getting feedback from them. Then that idea seemed to drift away and now I
just write without being concerned for feedback. Well, that’s not entirely true, I do wonder
how people see what I write about but I’m also not all that worried about it
and I no longer ask for feedback. My
intent now is to express something that wells up inside as best as I can, put
it out there and let it go.
One of my very best friends, a painter, once told me that
people often asked him what he thought of as his best piece of art. His answer always was that he was constantly
working on the same painting; it just had lots of canvasses. Which is as good a description of a life well
lived as I can imagine. His intent was
constant. Through all the ups and downs
of normal life his persistent desire was to paint, to create art. He also told me once that when a painting
left his studio it was no longer his. It
belonged to whoever viewed it and their reaction and emotional response was
theirs and not his.
I guess just about everyone has watched Luke Skywalker
strain to get the X Fighter out of the swamp; he almost starts to shake with
the effort. And then he gives up. Yoda then lifts the fighter out of the swamp
with no visible effort and looks with disgust at Luke. What was the difference, besides experience? Luke knew from the beginning that he couldn’t
do it. From the outset he knew he would fail. His intent was to fail.
Pir Vilayat often said that the most important thing to pay
attention to in doing spiritual practices was intent. You might mess up pronunciation of some
Arabic or Sanskrit word, you might even get the idea behind the practice
somewhat confused but if your intent was pure the practice would have its
effect anyway.
We live in a world where appearance seems to over whelm
everything. Models in magazines are
photo shopped before the mag is printed.
Getting the right automobile so your friends are envious is paramount,
etc. So, if your intent is to live a shallow
life, worried about appearance and nothing else you will be fine. If however, your intent is to discover your
true inner self and you are constant in your spiritual work then a life of
struggle will be yours. But in the end
it will be worth it.
Deep Regards, Musawwir
Wednesday, April 02, 2014
EDITING OTHERS LIVES!
EDITING OTHERS LIVES!
I think the cartoon above
actually predates the Internet. I seem
to remember seeing this somewhere back in the early 70’s. I thought it was true at the time and now
even more so. In fact, in my mind, the
urge to edit has expanded from the need to alter others copy to a need to alter
others lives.
Have you ever noticed an
impulse that we all seem to have when it comes to listening to the woes of
others? As we are listening we begin to
formulate the advice we are going to offer.
It is almost unavoidable. By the
time our friend is finished talking, assuming we let them finish, we have
already figured out what they are supposed to do and are all ready to offer
these gems of wisdom for their deeply grateful consumption. Then what happens? We have all had this experience in one way or
another, so what happens? It is pretty
rare that we are met with the gratitude we rightfully expect. Sometimes yes, but most of the time something
else takes place. The person ignores our
well thought out advice and continues to complain. The person listens politely and ignores us,
but stops talking. The person listens half-heartedly
and then goes on to explain why we are all wet.
Etc. etc. All kinds of reactions,
none involving gratitude, yet we continue to do this. Why?
On the other side of this
is our own reaction to the advice of others.
While we are complaining to someone about something we are also watching
the other person to make sure they are really listening but, what we often see
is the wheels turning and the very advice we know won’t work is about to be
offered. We don’t want it, all we really
want is for someone to listen and agree with us, not offer anything, just
listen. Never the less the advice will
come.
So, we know both sides. We continue to offer unwanted advice and we
continue to expect to be able to complain without receiving any. What is that definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over and
expecting different results.
Perhaps we can take a
different approach. One of the things
that all of the people I guide know about me is that I do not give personal
advice. I will offer techniques or my
own point of view about something but I will never tell someone, “You must do
this!” I learned this from Pir Vilayat
and have often thought it was the best piece of wisdom he ever offered. So, people who work with me rapidly learn
that complaining isn’t very useful because I won’t comment. And most of the people I know who also do
this work feel the same way and adopt an attitude of Detached Compassion. In other words, you want the best for everyone but you
never claim to know what that is.
Maybe you get all
excited when you hear a story from someone, “he, she, they did me wrong and I
am so pissed,” kind of story. What fun,
tell me more!!! We do tend to get all
interested when we hear this kind of thing.
However there will be a small little voice inside of us that is rather
embarrassed that we find these stories engaging. That’s the part of us that knows we are
better then that. So, perhaps you can
listen politely without contributing. Do
that and see what happens. For a time
life will seem dull and boring but I guarantee that it will get interesting
again when you find your true self finally feeling comfortable.
Many Blessings, Musawwir
Monday, March 10, 2014
IF IT WAS FUN EVERYONE WOULD DO IT!
IF IT WAS FUN
EVERYONE WOULD DO IT!
Spirituality is supposed to be happy time isn’t it? That’s what they told me! Peace, Love, Harmony, all that good stuff is
just waiting for me. And all that is
true but there are some interim steps that must first be taken.
It’s a reality about spirituality, the real thing, that it
is hard work. You truly have to want it
in order to get any kind of effective transformation. Even with the hard work nothing is
guaranteed.
I know there are all kinds of systems out there that promise
results in three weekends of intensive experience or whatever they say they can
do and you can give your money to them if you like but, ultimately, the real
thing, is predicated on three important qualities. Courage, Discipline and above all,
Patience.
Courage is needed to face your demons. You know those hidden things within you that
you don’t want to think about. Those
parts of you that are uncomfortable to consider. We all have em. Well most of us do. If you are one of the rare ones who has never
done anything stupid I applaud you and you can move on to the next step.
Discipline. It seems
simple. Every morning you make sure that
you get up early enough to spend fifteen or twenty minutes meditating. You will need instruction on how to do it but
really it is pretty simple to get started.
Or the instruction sounds simple anyway.
Just sit and breathe. Easy enough
right? If you have already mastered this
part, move on, other wise, set your egg timer for 5 minutes and see if you can
sit perfectly still, paying attention only to your breath. This is where discipline is learned.
Next and last we have Patience. Okay, I have been sitting here every day for
a month now, breathing and all that, when do I get the good stuff? What if I were to tell you maybe never? That’s the thing, once you start on the
spiritual path patience is essential.
Expectation of a result just gets in the way. I do not care what the self help guru’s may
say, nothing comes to you without these three elements and patience is the most
critical. This is why people want short
cuts. But short cuts are always
temporary, not long lasting.
And that is why I titled this article as I did. I was having a conversation with one of my
students and this phrase just fell out of my mouth. I looked at it and realized that it
works. It is fun but sometimes if
definitely feels like plodding thru mud.
That’s when we separate the sheep from the goats as the saying
goes. It’s a challenge to do this work
and, like it or not, that’s how it is.
Eventually, if you keep at it, there will come a time when
you suddenly realize that you have changed, you are calmer, easier to be
with. No longer do you respond with
anger or resentment, but with patience and empathy. And you might not even notice when it
happens, it just does. Constant
maintenance is necessary but by this time it will be as natural as opening the
fridge for a glass of juice, just another thing you do.
Ultimately we are responding to a deep need for ecstatic
glorification, those moments of supreme ecstasy that transform us into the
beings we are truly meant to be. This is
the true passion that emerges from within and demands to be known. To respond is our great gift to
ourselves.
So get out there and strive.
Love and Blessings, Musawwir
Friday, February 21, 2014
Aisle or Perimenter?
Do you know what kind of shopper you are; in the grocery
store that is? There are apparently two
kinds of shoppers; perimeter shoppers and aisle shoppers. Perimeter shoppers generally buy fresh food,
aisle shoppers buy prepared goodies.
When thinking of the above photo I was struck by this thought. I am definitely a perimeter shopper. Very little of what I buy at the grocery
store comes in a can or a box. However,
when I am behind someone in the check out aisle who has a cart full of boxes I
wonder.
This whole idea was brought home to me the other day when my
daughter happened to remark that both Dawn and myself look much younger then
our actual ages. And she said it’s
because we pay attention to our diets, as well as doing regular meditation and
practicing Tai Chi. To me that is so natural that I never think about it so my
daughter mentioning it was kind of a surprise.
Then I realized that paying attention in life to what is healthy is
really an important exercise in self-discipline.
The idea of self-discipline tends to bring
forth images of self-denial and painful choices but it does not have to be that
way at all. It can actually be
self-education, learning what is healthy and deciding to do that instead of
what one had been doing. And it does not
have to all be done at once either.
Approaching healthy living in small increments works fine.
Pick one thing that you know is inappropriate to your being
and change that. Some years ago I read
an article in some magazine about weight loss.
The person writing said they used to sit and eat a quart of ice cream at
a sitting, constantly, every night before bed.
When they decided to change that habit they didn’t stop ice cream but
what they did do was buy really good gourmet ice cream and have a small scoop, savoring
each spoonful. They did this only very
occasionally, not every night and not as a reward but just as something they
enjoyed. I like that approach very
much.
Ultimately any of these changes you decide on are based on
another much more important decision.
That is, “I am tired of this and don’t want to do it any more.”
When that place is reached you are ready to effectively
change your life.
Sincerely, Phillip Gowins
Saturday, January 18, 2014
METAPHORS ARE IMPORTANT
METAPHORS ARE IMPORTANT!
I was talking with one of my friends on facebook about
transformation and the process of unfoldment when we had the following
exchange:
Her: I
feel like being tied to one end of a bungee rope that keeps me from taking off,
and I keep wanting to turn around and just cut the darn thing off
Me: why
don't you
Her:
because it's a freakin metaphor and I have not found the freakin
metaphorical scissors yet
I about fell out of my chair laughing. It’s funny but it is also kind of how it can
seem. We really need these views in our
lives. We very much need to recognize
when we are getting in our own way and, despite the frustration that that may
bring, to at least realize that we have noticed the impediments. That is a very important step in discovering
the true self.
What is the true self you may very well
ask?
The true self is, as Pir Vilayat would put it,
“Who you would be if you could be who you should be.” Wrap your head around that if you can. We all tend to think that who we are is
fairly fixed and, with the possibility of a few minor modifications, that’s
it. The reality is that we are all a
work in progress and who we are in the present moment is the material we have
to work with, not the final result. We
also tend to think that we are some kind of end product and though we
intellectually know that the world is in motion and continually evolving, we
don’t really believe it. Nothing can
possibly take place beyond what we now know.
Do you notice the inconsistencies here? Empirical evidence tells us that there is a
constant flow of societal and physical evolution taking place but we don’t
really believe it. So, what to do?
Maybe the first thing to do is to notice one’s
assumptions; all of them. Not in any
negative or angry way, just notice.
Especially notice assumptions you have about yourself. Some things are pretty fixed; male or female,
genetic heritage, etc. But all the rest
are pretty flexible if you allow them to be.
The mystics say that knowledge of self is the path to knowledge of God, however
you may see that idea known as God.
My friend with the metaphorical bungee cord was
realizing some of the assumptions that had at one time seemed so real but now
were at best suspect and at worst holding her back. The question then was how to let go of
them. What a mystic would advise is the
constant awareness of these assumptions and the constant recognition that they
are indeed assumptions and not who she really is. Which is all very easy to say but in reality
is pretty hard work. This is where the
comfort of spiritual practices, whatever they may be, come in. Repetition of some kind of mantra or prayer is
one of the best methods of changing one’s assumptions to eventually become who
you would be if you could be who you should be.
The nature, style and cultural source of the prayer or mantra is not
nearly as critical as one’s intent when repeating.
There’s your main clue! What is your intent?
Blessings, Musawwir
Thursday, January 02, 2014
Resolution
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Res·o·lu·tion
[rez-uh-loo-shuhn]
noun
1.
a formal expression of opinion or
intention made, usually after voting, by a formal organization, a legislature, a
club, or other group. Compare concurrent
resolution, joint
resolution.
2.
a decision or
determination; a resolve: to make a firm resolution
to do something. Her resolution to clear her parents' name allowed her no
other focus in life.
3.
the act determining upon an action or course of action,
method, procedure, etc.; the act of resolving.
4.
firmness of purpose; the mental state or quality of being resolved or resolute: She showed her
resolution by not attending the meeting.
5.
These are only some of the meanings one can find for this
all purpose word. There are others
specific to the medical field, to optics and to computer monitors. I did not want to list them all but, if you
are curious, they are easy to find but they serve little purpose for the theme
of this post. What we are talking
about here is the resolution one discovers when it is time to make a change in
ones habit patterns and, by extension, in ones life.
Every person who seeks out assistance in some form in
changing a habit has come to a decision of sorts. The next steps however are those that test
one’s resolve. The hypnotist provides
the sub-conscious with the supporting programming that will aid you in making
the desired changes, what the hypnotist cannot do is reach inside your brain
and flip the appropriate switches to make sure that the changes are
permanent. That’s up to you. And that is where your resolve comes in.
As we explain to every client, with every suggestion you get
to make a choice of whether to accept or reject the suggestion. I think that is really important as it
provides a safety valve for you. There
is then a very real conversation that takes place in which you decide whether
or not to allow these changes to begin.
That is where a kind of passive resolve can come in so very handy. Deciding from the outset, “I am going to do
this and I trust this person to help me.” is the best attitude and will
guarantee good results.
This is the time of year when the common question is, “What
resolution did you break already?”
For the successful hypnosis client that question is very easily answered by, “I am becoming the person I have always been meant to be!”
For the successful hypnosis client that question is very easily answered by, “I am becoming the person I have always been meant to be!”
May the coming year be lived in the full knowledge that you
are a being of beauty and joy.
I intend to begin posting here after a two year hiatus.
Sincere Regards, Phillip Gowins
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